New Moms: Will My Baby Miss Me?

Posted by on Aug 19, 2013 | 4 comments

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Baby’s Own Room understands the fears of a new mom, so today we’ll talk about leaving your baby with someone for the first time.

If you’re a new mom in need of some important “me time,” or want to go back to work sometime soon, you may worry about separation anxiety in your baby when you leave him or her with someone else. Will she miss you so much she makes herself and her babysitter (or grandma, or auntie, or childcare provider) miserable all day long? Will you come back to a red-faced, inconsolable little guy who has been crying non-stop for hours?

Never fear. In most cases, it’s the new mother who suffers separation anxiety more often than the baby. If the person you leave your child with is comfortable and competent with infants, it should be an easy transition for your child. In fact, most separation anxiety in babies is learned behavior. If a baby senses that mom is nervous and unwilling to part with him/her, they will mirror that upset. If mom is mellow and flexible about handing him/her over, it’s unlikely that they will be anxious about staying with someone else.

If you have been the primary caregiver, it’s natural for both of you to respond with a little anxiety over being apart; but it doesn’t have to be stressful for your baby and easing into it can help. Try leaving your baby with a trusted adult while you’re in another room. When he or she fusses, stay out of sight, and let the other person soothe him/her. Then, when he/she is calm, return to let him/her see that you come back when you leave him/her with others. This will help him/her feel more comfortable without you, and will show you he/she can be content while you’re away.

When you’re able to leave your baby with a trusted caregiver, the time you do spend together will be extra sweet, and his bond with you will actually grow through the consistent message that you always come back. Baby’s Own Room encourages a healthy relationship with your significant other and it’s important to make that special time for one another. So call a trusted adult and make a date with your hunny you deserve it!

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4 Comments

  1. It is very difficult for moms to leave their little ones, especially if they must return to work. That is so hard to do and the guilt can be tough to deal with for many. But, with planning and care it can be eased for both mom and child.

    • Hi there Karen, you are so right planning is key! Thanks for taking the time to comment and happy blogging to you. 🙂

  2. It was so hard to leave my three month old baby and go back to work. I can’t wait until I can be a stay at home mom to him. But I can honestly say that now that I am used to working, I will actually miss coming home to him at the end of the day. He is so excited to see me and it makes my day.

    Thanks for linking up with the Tuesday Baby link up last week. I hope to see you back this week.
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    • Hi Melissa! Thanks for hopping on over, I really enjoyed your Tuesday Baby linkup. I’ll make time to get back again soon. Enjoy every moment with your son, and I hope that balancing work and mothering is working out. 🙂