5 Ways To Get Your Husband More Involved in Parenting

Posted by on Dec 20, 2013 | Comments Off on 5 Ways To Get Your Husband More Involved in Parenting

How Can I Get My Husband More Involved in Parenting?

 

One thing is absolutely certain, parenting is a huge job. As a matter of fact it’s the only one in the world that has no start and finish time. However, at the end of the day, the most important thing that you can do for your child is to parent consistently and lovingly. As much as we’d like to do the best that we can, sometimes even the best moms can use an extra set of hands–or two!  What better hands than those of a husband or significant other? This week Baby’s Own Room is tackling the age old question, “How can I get my husband more involved in parenting our baby?”

If you are Blessed with a hands-on father who is involved with the daily tasks of caring for your baby, we say hurrah! Maybe you can also share some tips by leaving a comment, we’d love to hear from you. But, if you are like many moms who find themselves the primary caregiver with very little support–know that there are a few things that you can do. Most fathers actually want to take a more active role in caring for their children. Reasons such as being the sole breadwinner, long commutes back and forth to work, and fear of doing things wrong; are just a few of the issues some fathers are facing. Once you have communicated and found out about the unique issues in your family, you will have taken the first step.

 

The Beauty of Fatherhood - Quote by David Arquette

 

Here are 5 ways that you can get your husband or significant other more involved in parenting. Remember that you can lead your man to the water, but you can’t make him drink. 🙂

  1. Make sure that you really are open to having the help. Some fathers try early on to bond and engage with their baby, only to have mom shame them or put them down for not doing things their way. Make sure that you are giving dad the clear message that you welcome parenting as a team, even if it means giving him space to do it his way. Praise him early on and often. Encourage him and let him know that his efforts are appreciated and needed. This is going to be a difficult tip to follow if you find yourself needing to control every aspect of parenting. But then again, if that’s the case you really aren’t open to having the help.
  2. Show Dad that fathering can be fun. As a mom you might say, “whether parenting is fun or not it has to be done.” While this is very true, remember that some men have been taught that nurturing and parenting are the mothers domain. These same fathers may feel like less of a man by involving themselves in this area, leaving the work to the mom. Think of fun ways your man can relate to nurturing, while still feeling masculine. Some examples are teaching water safety (AKA fun bath time duty), allowing for playful diaper changings even if not done perfect, and bedtime stories ‘dad’ style.  Parenting Can Be Fun - Encouraging involved fathering.
  3. Encourage time with other fathers and support networks. Although men don’t typically get together to talk babies or kids, there are supportive networks out there for men who want to become better fathers. Steer your man in the direction of a good one! Perhaps it’s with your church, other fathers on your block, or even a fatherhood initiative on Facebook. You can also try starting your search at Fatherhood.org or another site that supports fathering and building stronger families.
  4. Prioritize the areas you need support, then ask for it. You’d be surprised how many fathers think moms just have it covered. Actually this is a compliment, as it says you are doing a great job and making it look easy. Try jotting down the tasks that have you overwhelmed or don’t come easy to you. Approach your man at a good time and share your list. Ideally he will volunteer to take over some tasks in order to become more supportive and involved.
  5. Making memories that last a lifetime. Ask for a list of 5 awesome things your husband or significant other remembers doing with his father. These can be things as small as reading a book all the way to camping in the backyard. Have him share with you exactly what made this fun and memorable. It just may be the spark that gets the fathering fire going in him!

 

Would you like to give a shout out to an involved father in your life? Share a tip or two with a new mom who may be struggling with parenting on her own? We love comments at Baby’s Own Room and welcome you to drop by our Facebook community for support, fun, and much more.

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