3 New Year’s Resolutions to Make as a New Parent

Posted by on Dec 26, 2014 | Comments Off on 3 New Year’s Resolutions to Make as a New Parent

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Expecting parents do a lot of preparing, reading, and decision-making before their baby comes only to realize, one she’s here, that things don’t always go according to plan. As tempting as it is this new year to set resolutions that involve you being more perfect, working harder, and avoiding the messiness of life as a new parent, it’s probably more helpful to do just the opposite—set resolutions that help you embrace the enormous change that is becoming a parent. We’ve put together three New Year’s resolutions to make as a new parent. Use them or let them serve as a jumping off point.

  1. Be Perfectly Imperfect
    Most parents strive to be perfect. Whether your goal is to follow a certain parenting style to the T, never lose your temper, or eat 100% organic, the truth is that no one can be perfect all the time. In fact, making mistakes shows your children that it’s OK to be human. It’s important to set good intentions, resolutions, and goals, but of equal importance is adopting humility and choosing not to punish ourselves when we don’t do something the way we hoped we would. Parents are humans, too, and life is a complex process, not a neatly laid out series of steps. When you do make mistakes, learn from them, forgive yourself, resolve to do better next time, and move on.
  1. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
    A great resolution that not enough new parents make is to prioritize what’s really important and let everything else go for a while. As a new parent, you simply won’t be able to give your kid everything he needs, be the perfect spouse, son/daughter, employee, housecleaner, family finance manager, and friend at the same time. While it’s important to strive for balance, balance doesn’t mean doing it ALL. The first few years as a parent are tough; you and your children won’t remember that the dishes sat in the sink an extra day or two, that there were always mountains of unfolded laundry sitting around, or that your backyard turned into a semi-jungle. What you will remember is the time you spent together. It’s also important to recognize that while there will always be bathrooms to clean and gourmet meals to cook, you won’t always have the early years with your kids—or your health, if you don’t take time for self-care. Family and friends will understand (and if they don’t, they’re adults and can manage their disappointment better than a baby). Be good to yourself and your children above all else and let the other things wait!
  1. Take Time to Relax
    Gretchen Rubin, a wise woman, once said about parenting that “The days are long, but the years are short”. Most parents will attest to the fact that while there are many tough, exhausting days, that the years of raising children go by in the blink of an eye. Setting aside time to relax each day—even if it’s only for 10 minutes—allows you time to step back and recognize what’s going on in your family’s life. It can serve as a reminder that time is fleeting and that these challenging, amazing years are a precious moment in time to be savored. Plus, as a new parent you need the rest and time away! Taking a time-out also gives you the much needed space to check in with yourself and your own needs.

What resolutions will you make as a new parent in 2015?

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